Police Department - Domestic Violence Symptoms of Abuse

Symptoms of Abuse - Threats; Power Misuse; and Control

What symptoms below fit your life?

Using Emotional Abuse
Putting the other person down
Making the other person feel bad about themselves
Calling the other person names
Making the other person think they are crazy
Playing mind games
Humiliating the other person
Making the other person feel guilty

Using Privileges
Treating the other person like a servant
Making all the big decisions
Acting like the master of the castle
Being the one who determines the roles

Using Economic Abuse
Preventing the other person from getting or keeping a job
Making the other person ask for money
Giving the other person an allowance
Taking the other person's money
Not letting the other person know about or have access to family income  

Using Coercion and Threats
Making or carrying out threats to do something to hurt the other person
Threatening to leave the other person, to commit suicide, report the other person to welfare
Making the other person drop charges
Making the other person do illegal things

Using Intimidation
Making the other person afraid by using looks, gestures, or actions
Smashing things
Abusing pets
Displaying weapons 

Using Children
Making the other person feel guilty about the children
Using the children to relay messages
Using visitation to harass the other person
Threatening to take the children away

Using Isolation
Controlling what the other person does, who they see and talk to, what's read, and where they go
Limiting their outside involvement
Using jealousy to justify actions

Minimizing, Denying, Blaming
Making light of the abuse and not taking the other person's concerns about it seriously
Saying the abuse never happened
Shifting responsibility for abusive behavior
Saying the other person caused it  


Does your partner....?.

If you answered "yes" to any of these questions, you may be in an abusive relationship